Jan 04, 2016
What is the definition of the word “gentleman”?
Let’s get started with a quote from the incredible book “99 Cents For Some Nonsense” by author Jarod Kintz:
“The wind held the door open for me, and I appreciated it. Who knew the breeze was such a southern gentleman?”
Isn’t it true that these days, talking about an outfit with suit, loafers and tie or the act of a man opening door for a woman means talking about gentleman? This, in fact, is proof the the truth that there came to be a process in the past where good manners and good dressing habit of a man had been idealized into an icon of powerful elegance: the gentleman icon.
We all have our own personal definition of a gentleman. That gentleman could be a lover who pulls out the chair for his woman in a restaurant, or a guy in a fashionable suit whose appearance lends you the air of powerful confidence at first sight, or even the stunning Cary Grant from the widescreen Hollywood movies. And who says a gentleman couldn’t be your father or grandfather by who for the first time in your life, you are treated like a young lady and a true princess with all the unbelievably tender care and the toughest protecting embrace? And for some of us, we spent all those years of our childhood admiring these special gentlemen in silence.
And yes, why not? We got here for you a brief list of our individual opinions on the elements that considered to be must-have to the building of a gentleman brand. Let’s see.
The title of being a gentleman has been changed during courses of time. There used to be a point in the last century when the brand “gentleman” was a given birthright for man who were born and raised in noble families - ones with prominent social status. This, apparently, led to an inevitable result: manners and other kinds of generous behavior were not something those “gentlemen” all got. Instead, it was their family name and origins that decide the high or low of their title.
Time should bring along with it revolutions. Through decades, people’s ideologies of the “gentleman” concept has evolved into a quite new form. We are now living in an age where being a gentleman is no longer a matter of ascribed status - which was all about luck. It is now all about learning and choosing to be. Your styles. Your manners. Your leadership. Your social communicating skills. And so on.
That truth has been spoken by Vin Diesel this way:
“Being male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of age. But being a gentleman is a matter of choice.”
Very simple: a man who is good to you but is not good to the waitress is not a real gentleman. It’s the act of always staying humble and respectful that shows an even too much more powerful side of a man who’s been already well-known for his power . A gentleman also knows a gracefully soft-spoken order or suggestion speaks the loudest. In other words, let’s say the final test for a gentleman is his respect for those who can be of no possible service to him, based on some wise sayings from William Lyon Phelps.
(“A man gives a woman a helping hand as she takes a flying leap over a large puddle on the pavement, 1960.”)
As a gentleman, he will absolutely be willing to:
+ Say “please” and “thank you” .
+ Make commitments, not promises.
+ Learn from the olders and wisers.
+ Care for the youngers and weakers.
+ Open doors for a lady, help her to be seated in a restaurant, give her his jacket, bring her safely to her front door…
and any other behavior that shows respect, love and protection.
A true gentleman will do them not for a second doubting.
Have you ever heard of this story:
One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant. Mrs. Obama told Mr. President that in her teenage years, the owner of the restaurant was head over heels in love with her. President Obama then said, “So if you had married him, you would now have owned this lovely restaurant.” And she said: “No. If I had married him, he would now be the President.”
(Credit: William Eugene Smith)
The story is not even real, but people keeps spreading it. Maybe because the influence of a woman on a man’s living is real. Who knows how many gentlemen out there were inspired to be, first of all, by the gentleness from his lady?
“Manners, a must. Good looks, hell yeah!”
How does elegance look like? If being asked, we have two answers.
First, it got the shape of an aesthetic brain. If anything else, must be a bespoke suit that gives shape to the concept of elegance.
There are not too many costumes that could show owner’s personality and delicacy as clear as suits. A nice suit is one that excellently responses to all requests from the most basic to the most complicated, from main fabric and colors to every single little detail like thread, button, lining’s pattern… And sometimes, you would even need your own skillfulness with which you fold your pocket square or tie your bow tie in a right way so that the whole outfit is pulled together.
Paying for a bespoke suit, somehow, means you have just started a process of creation where the tailors listen to your very self’s concept of beauty, especially of how you want your suit to be, the standards or expressions of it… And then they’ll work their finest to actualize your imagination through a final finished product: a suit that fits all the current requirements of fashion and trends, yet makes sure bringing out the best of your personal brand at as much original as it could be.
A well-tailored suit deserves to be an art-work of the man who created it, and a wise choice of the man who puts it on.
(Credit: Cooper and Co.)
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